My first few years after school involved studying at a private university/college and starting to work so I was introduced and exposed to a whole new group of friends – boys and girls, from different schools and backgrounds, studying different degrees. It amazed me how I started to become friends with girls that I had always seen as competition or not very friendly during school because they were from other schools and on other teams. Now at university, we were all the same fish in one big pond, and they were very nice people.
I started working at a young age (straight out of school whilst studying part time) and I made friends that were quite a bit older than me and from different cities and jobs. As I grew up and moved on, I lost school friends along the way. We soon learn when leave our school gates, that the paths of our lives are all different and there is a bigger world out there. We learn that some relationships and friendships mature and bloom with age and experience and some just don’t make sense anymore…
After ending a destructive long term relationship, I lost and gained some old and new friends. I lost many mutual friends who chose to pick sides and I gained many new friends who saw the light with me and chose to enjoy a newer and happier life with me. I also spent more time with single friends as I needed and wanted to get out and about and hit the social scene again – after all, I was turning 21 and loving life! I had an awesome group of friends to socialise with, go on holiday with, drink and dance with and stay up all night with…
I then met MC and again, my circle of friends grew. I met and got along with all of his friends and their girlfriends. I spent time with these new girls, went on holiday with them, went out with them and spent time with them even when MC moved back overseas. Some of them became true friends and some became social friends.
After years of flourishing and failing friendships, I have learnt a lot about friends and the different types of friends that i have and will have. I have learnt…
- Some friends are for now and some are forever.
- New friends can be made at any stage of your life.
- More friends never means the better friends.
- Distant makes no difference with true friends, it just makes you miss them more.
- Close friends can have opposite personalities.
- Boys and girls can be friends.
- You can travel with some friends, and you can’t travel with others.
- You can live with some friends, and you can’t live with others.
- You can trust friends around your other half (and if you can’t, they are not friends).
- Friends let you have other friends.
- You will meet mommy friends when you have a baby.
- You can’t trust all your friends.
- It’s ok to argue and disagree with friends.
- There are some friends that you will speak to every day.
- There are some friends you will only speak to once a month.
- You have friends that will only be there during the good times.
- And some that thrive on the bad times.
- You have friends that will talk behind your back.
- You can have friends 5 years younger than you.
- You can have friends 10 years older than you.
- You have friends that will be jealous of you, and friends that you will envy too.
- You can have many many many friends.
- But you will only ever have a handful of true, best friends.
Do you have these friends?